A few weeks ago, I was watching an episode of The Real and they were discussing how women should hesitate to define a relationship that they have with their significant others. I disagree.
They go on to say that when you define a relationship, you scare off your fella. How you should just go with the flow until he suggests it. They insist that by trying to define the relationship that you'll push your man away. Lies!
We (people) have been defining relationships for forever. Be it betrothed marriages, pinning your sweetheart, the wearing of your beau's Letterman jacket, or promise rings. We've been DTR, no matter what these new age women think. When you refuse to make your status known, you allow your significant other to simply take what he/she needs without a goal in sight. You end up being schlepped along for the better half of your life and then dumped like yesterday's trash when the crow's feet start to settle in.
At the same time, don't let him/her into your daydreams of wedding bells and the pitter patter of tiny feet on the first date. There's a time an a place for everything, and the first date isn't it.
I suggest you make your plans known as soon as possible and find out if the other person wants that too. If not, then this relationship is a waste of your time...unless, that is, you don't want to get married.
Just my thoughts on the matter.
Until next time,
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