I am posting up my response to some nonsense a woman is Facebooking about plus size women being used for sex and money, and how they’ll never be seen as marriage material by men who are considered great catches.
As I glance over this “public figures” self-help page for men and wives, I shudder at the thought of women actually taking her advice. Granted, some things that she says, like waiting until marriage for sex, are great, but telling lies about women to women, just to sell your products, is beyond pathetic.
This woman is apparently roaming around the world pushing her “marriage class”, but the more I converse with her, I find out that she is not married, lacks a degree (she’s stating that a formal education is masculine) or any other worthy credentials that would make her a professional in this field.
She’s telling women, “Junk foods & couch surfing will never make you feel the amazing love of a quality man! I urge my black women to lose the excess weight, reach a real size 4-8, and get back in the game! Otherwise, what are you living for?”
“Yes, our men like jiggle and bounce, but if you're not bouncy and fit, you won't be the marrying type to a quality man!”
“A man claiming a woman as his wife, is not an easy decision. This woman's class will represent his class, and as his most prized accomplishment, her appearance will determine how other men value him as a hunter. Meaning, a man's wife's APPEARANCE will directly affect his success, as the provider.
AND for procreation, he needs her to stimulate him visually!”
So many women responded to let her know she is dead wrong about her statements. There are plenty of women who are curvy have great husbands. (I, myself, being one of them) Who is she to determine what is acceptable by the opposite sex?
So the thing that’s bothering me is that she posted a comment about beauty procedures:
“A LITTLE girl time is good, but most American women go too far! Nails, feet, brows, waxing, lashes, hair styles, clothes, jewelry, shoes, car detailing, dry cleaning, dining out, entertainment, 2, 3, (even 50+) of everything, luxury items & more things I can't remember right now! Are you the perfect consumer? The perfect consumer makes a horrible wife, and a good wife should be able to keep financial respect with her husband; despite who makes what. Can you spend less than $100 monthly on things you DON'T need? (FYI, a need is something that will help keep you alive) Challenge! More at wife school!”
How can you sit here and say appearance is important for marriage and procreation, but then turn around and say that taking care of ourselves means we’re “Consumers” and that “The perfect consumer makes a horrible wife”. Again, she’s not married, and knows nothing about marriage. It gets more ludicrous reading the comments and her feedback. Uh. I can’t with that woman.
THERE IS A GROUP OF WOMEN WHO DO WHAT SHE'S DOING, BUT MUCH BETTER. IT'S CALLED THE SINGLE WIVES CLUB. LOOK IT UP. BETTER YOURSELVES THROUGH A REAL SOURCE, NOT THIS! They actually have success stories to share.
http://thesinglewivesclub.com/
Which would you rather be a part of?
So, with that said, how do you feel about this form of fat shaming? Do you think it has some validity? How do you feel about the hypocrisy when she mentions how American women maintain themselves?
Until next time,
This is self deprecation at its best. Clearly, she has low self esteem and as they say misery loves company she is projecting her own self dislike upon the masses of full figured African-American women. Men like what they like whether it's skinny, fat, short or tall. This woman needs extensive therapy. Smh.
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