Spiritual Guidance: 10 Ways to Enhance Your Dating IQ

10 Ways to Enhance Your Dating IQ

A few Sundays ago I had the opportunity to hear a sermon that would rock most of my single friends and family to their dating cores. We covered everything from exploratory intimacy (The current standard of our culture: imitate marriage without the commitment.) To basing relational compatibility exclusively on physical appearances. But, here are the 10 ways to enhance your dating IQ:

10 Ways to Enhance Your Dating IQ

1.Seek contentment before companionship.

They can't complete you.

2.Know YOUR family influence. 

Your family's model will play a part in whatever relationship you enter. 

3.Rethink your preferences.

Decide what's important. Maybe some of the expectations on your list are not realistic. Look outside of your limits (like race). These, however, ought to be the necessities on everybody's lists.

A man needs: To be Saved. To have a Salary. To be a Spiritual leader. To have Self control. 

A woman needs: To be Saved. To be Submissive (it sounds like an ugly word, but I promise that it's not). To be Sweet (sometimes sour, but mostly sweet....THIS IS MY ADDITION). To be a Servant.

4. Be Friends first.

Point blank. That needs no explanation. 

5. Men initiate.

You need to seek. Real men risk rejection. It's about leadership. To women: it starts the relationship off with him being interested and drawn in, therefore keeping his attention.

6. Women should be perused.

Relax girl, when God's ready he'll send someone. These rules are meant to protect you, and your heart.

7. Three-lathionship.

Be in community. Be accountable. Date in groups. If not it could lead to premature intimacy, isolation, and an unhealthy intensity to perform marital duties. (Been there done that)

8. Ration your emotions.

Careful about how much you share. You could be giving a creep the road map to your heart when he/she has no intentions of being committed. 

9. Classify the relationship.

Am I over my ex? If not, you are a bookmark: someone to come back to whenever they please. (This is when your past the friendship stage) Don't stay in long uncommitted relationships.

10. Operate in purity.

Christians get horny (FORREAL?! I didn't know that!) . Don't get close. Don't put yourself in that predicament. Don't set yourself up (Been there, done that. It's not easy, and I'm no one to judge).

1. Remind yourself that you're complete in Christ.
2. Maximize this season by showing, sharing and drawn serving.
3. Remember grace covers all of your past, present and future dating mistakes.
 Good Luck!

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